I was reminded recently what real life looks like to others that aren't me. This might sound silly because I'm "new" to dream following, and my past is just like any one else's. It's full of struggles, hard work at a job I didn't like and feeling stuck in a particular lifestyle or relationship, etc.... But I have this new perspective from the last 12 months that I wish I could make more obvious to anyone that wants freedom from feeling trapped, or wants to embrace a dream that seems impossible.
First thing that I often hear is people saying "but I can't", to which the annoying answer from my end is ALWAYS " of course you can, you can do anything."
Other than certain limitations I truly believe that. You aren't stuck. No matter what you are doing that you don't like, a job, a location, a relationship, a habit, it doesn't have to be permanent. The trick is, yes there are obstacles, often a lot of them that seem crippling and impossible, but if you put your mind and soul into it, things can always change.
I want to give you my example. If you read back to last years blogs when I began my journey, I outlined what I had to go through to get to where I am today but I want to touch base again. I was in a ton of debt- school, car, credit card, more school, etc. I was managing well but the fact was, to live in Portland, pay my bills and my debt, I had to make around $2000.00 a month just to pay the minimums and rent and such. Now maybe that doesn't seem like a ton to some of you, but to a girl who wants to up and travel the country throwing frisbees, that number isn't manageable. So of course I felt stuck. "I have to work this job that makes me miserable until I don't have debt anymore." But the amount of money we’re talking about at the time was ridiculous! I could have stopped there, "accepted" my fate and stayed where I was for years to come.
But I didn't.
I was determined and I had a dream and I was going to find a way to do it no matter what.
There were obstacles. A lot of them and there are many people with more or different obstacles than I had but the truth remains, if you want something bad enough, and you work hard enough, you can do it. There is some finagling, and some uncomfortable situations and you have to make tough decisions and stand up for yourself and find your independence and put yourself first, and that's a LOT of stuff.
But for the happiness you can create for yourself, it’s worth all of it. It will change your life for the better and if something goes wrong or if you find your dream has changed "you can always go back." That phrase did me wonders in the beginning of my journey. It's what I told myself during every scary situation and it helped me make my initial jump. Again, nothing is permanent, it goes both ways.
Having a plan is important, having a backup plan is important but don't let that first scary leap keep you from a future you dream about. People always ask if moving into an RV was intimidating. Heck yes it was! But if I didn't like it, I could sell it, and get an apartment again like I was. Problem solved. People ask if it was scary moving away from home to somewhere I didn't know anyone. Oh boy, YEP it was. But I could always go back home if thing got hairy. Generally there are friends and family you can rest on if something goes wrong, but you have to be willing to ask for help. I did at many points along the way and you'd be surprised how much people WANT to help, and are THRILLED to be a part of it.
I could talk about this for hours and I enjoy talking about it. I hate seeing friends and loved ones not living life to the fullest when the potential is there for anyone, in any situation.
I love you all, even if I haven't met you, and I want you to be happy. If your dream is frisbee life, DO IT, if your dream is getting out of your job or your relationship, do it, if your dream is being a damn circus clown, for the love...just do it! It doesn't matter how ridiculous it is. I throw fricking frisbees for a living because that's what makes me happy, and I'm freaking proud of that, no matter how it looks to anyone.
I'll get off my soap box now. My heart is just hurting for my friends who feel as stuck (as I once did) and I want to help.
As for tour updates (if you've made it this far):
Minnesota Majestic this weekend! First tourney as an official PRO!
Chick Flick 8/6 North Plains, OR (Playing, doing a clinic, and vending with Whale Sacs)
Women's Clinic for Tiger Discs 8/13 Salem, OR
Twin Falls Classic 8/20 Twin Falls, ID (also vending)
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